Don’t Call Me Old Fashioned
I’m like a 50’s Mom at heart who’s been given a 2011 update. I think men and women, women and women, or men and men can coexist in a household with kids where everything isn’t equal. Everyone can (and should) do everything. Men can do laundry, women can change the oil. Kids can set the table, they can even make dinner. If we function as a family, everyone feels like they’re contributing and that’s a good feeling!
As parents, my husband & I BOTH provide the compassion and caring, both equally I would say. We both contribute to our family on a daily basis. I change diapers but so does he. He takes the garbage out but so do I (ok, I empty the garbages, he takes it to the curb). Most of the everyday “stuff” we do is out of habit. We’re in some sort of a routine just because. My new goal is to break that routine by doing more of his “stuff”. If we’re both giving 100%, does it matter who does what?!
I do feel, however, like Moms have a special spot in the home. We’re usually the ones who have carried the baby for 9 months so there is a natural relationship that is in place from the time that baby is conceived. Who do you want when you get the flu?! I know I still want my Mommy, not going to lie 😉
So there’s my predicament…if I’m the one staying at home with my kids every day, should I be the one doing the laundry, making meals, washing the dishes?? Well, that’s NOT the way it’s going to be in our house. Staying at home with my kids IS my job. While he’s away at work supporting our family, I’m home supporting our family. If either end isn’t giving 100% it wouldn’t work. My super awesome husband and I agree that we are both working equally hard each day so we should “share” (for lack of a better term) in the household duties. I hope the world accepts this as our answer, because, well, that’s just the way it’s going to be 😀