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Potty Training For Dummies, Part Two: Boys

20 Jun

And so it begins. Another phase of childhood. Another “Grab the camera!” moment in time. Another milestone. Another…reason for more anxiety.

Potty training.

For those parents & caretakers reading this, ’nuff said.

For those of you still learning, here’s the true story. (Perhaps you should read here first, Part One of my potty training experience.) Potty training ain’t a walk in the park. You can’t be too harsh nor too careful. You shouldn’t be too rushed or too late. You have to do it just right.

Lucky for us, our son wanted to begin using the potty all on his own around two years old. That was a few months ago. Wish I had written the post then, because it would’ve stated how easy it was to potty train a boy. Ha! Don’t we all wish.

After a day or two of him staying dry without me trying, I thought we should give it a go. Being that it was only about a month after our daughter was born, maybe it wasn’t the best idea, but he was willing & able, insisting he wear underpants like a “little boy”. (We try not to use the term “big boy” quite yet…hoping to save that for things to come. “Little Boy” is a nice step up from “Baby”, wouldn’t you agree?!)

Our daughter had won a free potty training timer watch from Huggies and it showed up just in time for Marsden’s use. We set the timer for ten minute intervals at first. He was getting annoyed with me taking him all the time, so we readjusted it to thirty minute intervals. Worked like a charm. It took him two full days to master the art of “peepee on the potty”. We used all the same tricks that we did for our firstborn (again, link to original blog found here) and it seemed to be just right for him, too. The difference? Boys are gross. I’ll spare you the details.

Fast-forward a few weeks. Regression. A parent’s dread. He started having accidents more frequently and still hadn’t mastered pooping on the potty. TMI?? The worst part about it is he thinks it’s funny. That’s right, I used the present-tense. He finds it amusing to wet his pants and leave a mark on the sofa or other places, and doesn’t seem to mind a poopy pull-up after bedtimes. Eh, we’re getting there. This week seems to be more consistent, as our schedule is back to “normal” (haha) and I’m more persistent with helping him remember. His accidents occur mostly when he’s tired and simply too lazy to get up and go potty.

So, we’re sticking with it. He is determined to wear cool robot underpants & spider-man boxer briefs and we are psyched to have to purchase one less box of diapers each week. Maybe they’ll be a Part THREE, or maybe not. Maybe he’ll have it figured out in no time, or maybe not. Either way, we will be patient and understanding, loving and kind throughout the process. All in due time.

Flashback Week: Potty Training For Dummies

14 May

Hello there! I am having so much fun re-reading old blog posts that I have decided to make this week ‘Flashback Week’.

I wrote this post a little over a year ago, in the throes of potty training our little girl. She had almost mastered the potty by two years of age. Lucky us, eh?!

As we venture into the new territory of potty training with our son, a boy, a new & different ballgame, I thought this might be a good refresher course.  He is actually doing quite well leading the way.  The ‘To-Be-Continued’ post shall soon follow…

For now, enjoy our summary on potty training, if that is at all possible.

https://thewhimsicalsweet.wordpress.com/2011/02/07/potty-training-for-dummies/

Potty Training For Dummies

7 Feb

If there is a book by this title, I would not buy it. I hadn’t read up on any literature for potty training when my daughter decided it was time. In fact, the extent of the books I’ve read since are entitled “Potty Time” and “I Can Go Potty”, Grover and Kermit telling my child how to use the potty. Throughout my many years of babysitting, leading a toddler day care room and nanny hood, I had a hand in training several little ones. I did take several child psychology courses in the (eh hem) one-too-many years of college I attended & learned (and retained) a bit about the mind of a toddler. When it came to our child, I just listened to my instincts and followed the lead of my brilliant daughter. Most of it is pure maternal instinct.

When she was around 14 months old, my daughter took an interest in the potty. She would sit on her little potty and go. It was that easy. Ok, it wasn’t THAT easy, but it was fairly simple compared to disaster tales of other Moms I‘ve heard. We really jumped into it at around 20 months. We would often recite “Peepee goes on the _____” (she would fill in the blank). She would say it by herself once she learned to speak in full sentences. This was months after her brother was born and after the pacifier was taken away. Nothing to get in her way, until she broke her leg. She regressed, and we lost patience (but we never let her know, it certainly wasn‘t her fault), but she picked right back up where she left off when that cast came off 4 weeks later. From the time she turned two,  she has been in underwear all day! Yes, of course she has accidents. My favorite was at the Museum. I was nursing my son & she just stood there in a puddle on the bridge through fairytale land. Oops! Thank goodness it was at a children’s museum!! This only happens now once in a great while.  My husband and I vowed to never make a big deal of it, just be matter-of-fact. Keep in mind I will be writing this over entirely when my son is potty training, when all hell breaks loose and everything I have said here goes flying out the window!

There is an excellent lesson to be learned during this feat: patience. If there’s one thing I think works, it’s to wait until they are ready. And when they are ready, wait until they learn. You can’t force the issue, no matter the age of your diapered toddler. Listen to their cues, go with their flow – literally and figuratively! Sure, invest in a decent pint-sized potty (or take the hand-me-down like we did!), look for some appropriate books you can read together while on or off the potty, and always, always, ALWAYS carry several spare pants, underwear, socks and even shoes in the diaper bag. Most of all, never get frustrated, at least on the outside. You can scream bloody murder on the inside, but don’t let your little one see the frustration. We’re not pre-programmed to learn to dispose of our waste in a receptacle that flushes into the ground for good. There is a lot of psychology behind teaching that to a child. So, my friends, tread lightly. Be cautious as to what kind of pressure you’re putting on your children. Let them lead the way. 

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