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A Big Blog Break

22 Apr

Blogging is always on my mind, it’s a matter of whether or not I can find ten to thirty minutes to type and post on my blog.  That has been rather difficult in these last few, very busy weeks.

Yes, we had a baby.  And sure, that takes up a lot of time in addition to caring for our other two children.  Three under four.  A lot more work than we anticipated, especially when you add on the stomach bug for a few of us, a bout of mastitis that included an achy fever for Mom, and a cold virus for all five of us which landed our brand new baby in the hospital for a four-day stay.  NO FUN.

I will say that the medical system should find an infection in your child, should your child unfortunately be the one in a million that gets infected.  Thankfully, the health care plan in place at our hospitals (& most around our country) can determine if a child has a life-threatening illness & treat that patient accordingly.  The problem?  Even if your child is referred to the Emergency Department by your pediatrician for a fever alone at a mere two and a half weeks of age, they have to endure the same rigorous testing as everyone else.

You can’t take any chances.  Should our baby have had meningitis or some awful viral pneumonia or other, we would have been devastated.  We thank God it was “most likely just a virus”.  Unfortunately, she had to go through a lot to determine that vague diagnosis.  (We can send men to walk on the moon & video chat with others through wireless internet…why don’t we know more about viruses?!)  A blood draw, an I.V., an X-ray, a catheter urine sample draw, and two separate attempts at a lumbar puncture by four doctors (the second of which we tried to refuse until they pretty much threatened us with a two-week hospital stay to keep her on antibiotics).  A two and a half week-old baby.  Then the waiting game began along with “the slippery slope”.  She had to get an I.V. to pump three different antibiotics into her system for numerous suspected “just in case” infections.  She had to have maintenance fluids to prevent the side effect of one antibiotic – crystallization of her kidneys.  From the fluids came pretty severe bloating.  Her body looked overfilled with fluid.  And the side effects from the antibiotics…diarrhea, distended bowels, gas and diaper rash.  This, of course, all causes discomfort and pain in our otherwise happy baby girl.  So they suggest Mylecon drops for the gas and Desitin for the diaper rash.  Not interested.  Enough already.

Hooked up to I.V., bloated from fluids.

I am not complaining of the care we received.  It was excellent.  The nurses at our local Children’s Hospital are phenomenal.  The doctors are too, but they have to stick with protocol and aren’t really allowed to score 10+ on the bedside manner chart with the system that is in place.  And should our child have a horrible outcome with the testing?  We would be more than thankful of this system.  It just seems like a lot for someone who only has a cold virus, yet there is no way of telling this upon arrival.

Luckily our baby is a healthy, exclusively breastfed baby.  They think that helped a lot.

And we just went through the exact same process with our son one year ago (almost to the date).  And he ended up with “most likely just a virus”.  In fact, a doctor on the resident team told us that 90-95% of people leave the hospital without a diagnosis.

Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.  With warning signs such as a fever in a two week-old, you can’t take any chances.  As our pediatrician explained, things could turn very quickly.  Better safe than sorry.

We are home now.  We are glad that is behind us and all still recovering from the cold that void nearly a week of our lives.  We are so very thankful for our family and friends who helped care for our other children during our hospital stay.  The greatest lesson we learn:  health shouldn’t be taken for granted.  Health is wealth.  We lived with others less fortunate for a few days & realized how awful it must be for them.  It is heartbreaking.  As parents, you want to reach out & hug them for the rest of the day.  We want to let them know we are thankful for our health, albeit with a non-debilitating virus.  We pray for them to have their health, and to recover from whatever it is they are fighting.  Wouldn’t the world be such a better place if it were rid of disease and infection?!

Happy to be going home!

I hope to return to blogging a bit.  Eh, I know, I always say that.  I won’t make any promises but will certainly post when I get a chance.  I enjoy it, and I hope you still enjoy reading.

Oh, and P.S. I hope this to be the most negative of my posts (was it negative?!).  I apologize for the rant, I just thought it would be insightful for those that have to visit the emergency room with their little ones.  I have a new resolution to only post positive.  Who wants to read negativity, right?

The Good, The Bad & The Ugly Of Pregnancy: OVERDUE + Counting!

27 Mar

40 Weeks

Forty weeks came & went.  I’m not surprised, I was late with my first two babies as well.

I am taking this time to embrace the wonder of it all.

When I got married, I thought, “I want to have lots of children.  Will I be able to have children?”

Then I got pregnant.

Then I wondered, “Will this baby be healthy?  Will it be a boy or a girl?  Will she/he look like us?  Will she/he act like us?”

Then we found out it was a girl.  And she appeared to be healthy.

Then I wondered, “When will she come?  How will it happen?  Will she be big/small/perfect?”

Then she was born.  It happened naturally, when she was ready.  And she was perfect.

These, among other questions that run through the mind of a new Mom, are some of the unanswerable questions in life.  Here I am, faced with the “When will she come?” question all over again.  Rather than be up in arms about going past my “due date” (believe me, I have my moments!), I’m trying instead to embrace it and especially not take this wondrous time for granted.

We are truly blessed.  We feel it every day.  We are so thankful, ever-so grateful for the life we have been given.  We promise to never take it for granted.

And so I wait.  My husband waits.  Our children wait.  And everyone waiting with us waits!

As I put my oldest, very wise “baby” to sleep tonight, I told her we may or may not be here in the morning, as I have been experiencing some pretty strong signs of early labor.  She asked if the baby was going to come tonight, as she had guessed earlier in the day.  I answered her by saying, “Well, it’s one of the sweet mysteries of life, Sweetie.  We get to be surprised as to when the baby comes!”  She answered with a gigantic, genuine grin, “I’m so inxcited!”

So are we, little girl.  So are we.

The Good, The Bad & The Ugly Of Pregnancy: 20 Weeks, The Halfway Mark – Blogging From The Couch

7 Nov

20 weeks is an interesting point in pregnancy. I am now “halfway” to meeting this baby. But who really delivers at 40 weeks? Certainly not me.

We are thrilled to announce that our family will be welcoming, with very open arms, a baby GIRL into this world sometime around late March. My instinct said girl so glad to know I’m not losing too much in that realm. Either way, we would have of course been elated, but we are more at ease knowing that this is another girl. Why? Well, if she’s anything like our Tavia was as a baby, we are all set. We are completely assuming gender plays a big role in demeanor & really, really hoping we have an ‘easy’ baby on our hands. That is hilarious, isn’t it?!

Forgive me for the lack of photos. I am blogging from my cell phone on the couch. My body has had it today. We’ve been going, going, going for months now. Between the late nights & early mornings, I’m definitely overly fatigued. I have good days and bad days, this just happens to be a bad day. This morning, I woke up to vomiting. Actually, I’m assuming I’ve torn my esophagus, since there were streaks of blood and I have some abdominal pain & soreness. Leave it to my body to have some bizarre pregnancy-related blech symptom. I’m not overly concerned, as there is some pain but I trust it’s all related. I’ll give it a few days & go from there.

We will look forward to a second ultrasound next week to get some more angles of the heart. The tech says everything looks great. We know that if it wasnt great, we would have met with my midwife by now. Last time, while pregnant with Marsden, we were called into speak with her about the possibility of him having Down Syndrome. His nuchal folds were very thick and they had to tell us that DS was a concern. Initially, we were a little shocked but I was accepting of after a few short minutes. I knew I loved him regardless of his genetic differences if that were indeed the case. It turned out he was just a very large baby squished into my womb, standing on his head. We are grateful for that. So now we are grateful for good news so far through this pregnancy. There is always that little bit of worry at each appointment, especially in the beginning.

I can feel the baby’s movement frequently at this point. The kicks & stretches are stronger now, though I have been feeling them for 8 or more weeks this time around. My husband can feel a kick here and there but I’m still trying to catch a moment for the kids to feel. I know they will find it very neat!

Food-wise, I’m still having trouble stomaching real meals. I have many aversions but no real cravings. Hopefully this nausea goes away once and for all & I can get into a more well-rounded diet.

I guess that’s about it for now. I will attempt to post again soon with a belly shot. They will be fun to look back on & see how ‘small’ I was :) !

Relaxing Shower

4 Oct

The last time I took an uninterrupted shower was over 3 years ago.  Before baby, showering & prepping myself for the day took around an hour.  When Baby No. 1 was born, showers were a quick in-and-out as she napped or spent peeking through the curtain to see if she was still breathing.  Should I bring her in with me & take a lukewarm shower?  Maybe I can leave her in her seat downstairs while I jump in quickly?  Or perhaps she can sit in her seat right in the bathroom next to me?  Either way, being a new Mom, I was usually concerned & would never enjoy a hot shower.  Now, with two, showers come on nights & weekends when my husband is here.  Otherwise it’s during a very rare nap when both kids are asleep or being interrupted & running down the stairs sopping wet to find that my one year-old has discovered how to open the gate.  With another on the way, I realize I will never see a peaceful shower for at least 18 years.

It’s funny how we give things up as parents.  It’s also funny how I really don’t mind.  I don’t mind that I have to shower on the edge.  It makes it more productive that way.  Who says showers need to be relaxing anyway?!  Five- to ten-minute showers are much less enlightening, but they sure manage to produce a clean result.  Everything gets done in a timely fashion.  That seems to be the way all things are lately…

Terrible Twosdays: Little Miss Sassypants

30 Aug

Terrible Twosdays are back, and with a vengeance!  I knew the day would come that the transition from two to three would reek havoc on our home in ways we never thought our little angel could.  ‘Tis here, ladies and gentlemen, and I don’t think they’re going anywhere.  The Terrible THREES have arrived a month or so early.  Are we prepared??!!

Sassypants is in the house!  Talking back, rolling eyes, attitude beyond recognition…our lovely, sweet, dainty little girl is now a sassy preschooler.  Where do they learn to talk back to their parents?  We certainly don’t talk to each other that way.  And I can’t believe this little tot knows how to roll her eyes!  She must have learned that from her father *rolls eyes*.

Lately, a simple “Ready for bed?” is cut of by “NOPE!  I’m not tired yet!” and then an unwillingness to go to bed, a usually hitch-less transition.  Mealtime is more like test time, where she’s pushing the buttons to see which ones work best.  ”I don’t like opameal (t’s term for oatmeal) anymore!”  Five minutes later, she’s spooning it down the hatch as if she’s never tasted anything so delicious.  Most nights this is how things go:   t:  “I’m hungry!  I’m thirsty!”  me:  “Dinner is ready.”  t:  “But I’m not hungry!!”  Little Miss Contradictory.  Ordering us around, “Walk in here *pointing* then stand here & pick this up!”.  Oh, and breaking the rules!!  Rules she knows well.  Pretty sure this is her thought process:  “When you said DON’T throw the ball in the house, what you really meant was DO throw the ball, right?”.  Not to mention scolding her little brother as if she’s the Queen of Hearts:  “I don’t THINK so, Marsden!  You stop that right now or you’re going to be in big trouble!”.  Well, at least I know where she gets that from…

Let me break it down for you.  Our daughter, lil’ t, was a VERY easy kid.  Easy newborn, easy infant, easy baby, easy toddler…WAIT…STOP RIGHT THERE!  I have to change “easy preschooler” to “preschooler with attitude”.  Overnight.

Ah but it’s not all bad.  She is learning like a thick sponge, taking everything in.  She learns with grace and simplicity.  She is an amazing tiny person.  The attitude that comes along with it is fine, as long as it’s respectful.  Sometimes it’s laughable.  The other day, she refused to hurry back to the car with us at a park right before it started sprinkling.  I told her it was going to rain.  Her response?  “No it’s not.”  I even pointed to the dark cloud looming over our heads.  She didn’t believe me.  Guess who got caught in the flash downpour, a sopping, sobbing mess?  She sat on her bike & wailed as I ran back to get her in the car.  One (small) lesson learned.

Testing, testing, testing.  I suppose with learning communication comes language testing.  She has to test the language along with her actions to see if it works.  I’ll go with that for the time being!  It will make our world a lot easier with that in mind :)

To all you other Moms & Dads out there going through the same thing…breathe.  The next thing you know, your 3 year-old will be 4 and we will be on to bigger & better feats.

 

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