Because I Said So
At the museum a few weeks ago, I overheard a mother yelling at her son. He was attempting to open a door to an emergency exit. He would try and she would yell over to him, “Don’t touch that!”. He would respond with “Why?” & she would answer, “BECAUSE”!
If you‘re wondering what NOT to say to your child, look no further. This is it. Getting away with dismissing your child so easily can and will only result in a negative outcome.
Our children’s brains work in wonderful ways. When they are small, they will start to ask “Why?”, “How?”, “Who?” and so on, more times a day than you would like. A constant reminder that it’s not all about you, it’s all about them. Take the time to give them an answer and I bet they’ll stop pestering you.
I think of it as a way to fill their brains with answers. Children are like little sponges, especially in the beginning when their language is developing and they’re exploring the world around them. They genuinely WANT to know. They desire answers. They want to hear “Because” followed by a real reason. In the case above, a simple “because the alarm will go off” would have been a fine solution. I took note that he would probably just do it again since she didn’t give him a reason NOT to, and sure enough he was back at the door a few minutes later, attempting to open it.
One of the best ways to teach your children is to give them answers, help their minds to grow. That is our duty and privilege as parents.